What it means to be a nice girl

Basically, putting the needs of others before your own. For instance: Doing the “right thing” even if you don’t want to Letting other people encroach on your personal space and boundaries, and not standing up for yourself and your needs until they’ve egregiously overstepped  Second-guessing yourself and your intuitions while giving others the benefit of the doubt Comforting others (and taking on their emotional/etc. burdens!) even when you’re not in the right/best mental state to do so Doing things that are inconvenient, annoying, or downright bad to you because they make someone else’s life (even slightly) better   Fuck being a nice girl.

Link to me talking about mono no aware + other things

Hi all! I figured I would post the link to this “video” on my blog since it basically is just an unedited oral blog post. I recorded the audio around two weeks ago and just posted it. I enjoyed making it, and I will probably continue to use this media format for topics that are more difficult to write about concisely. Maybe I can live out my dream of making a podcast/radio program? 😊 I feel that I am in a period of many changes in my life. (click on the video for some more context + helpful links in the description!)

Preserving artifacts

What is the truth of mediums (e.g., mechanical pencils, oil paints, human beings) and processes (e.g., printing, sketching on a moving vehicle, human-based service industries)? I think for a lot of “high-achievers,” we hold everything (including ourselves!) to a standard of perfection. But that often betrays the truth of ourselves and our lives. I used to have very light handwriting, so that when I erased – always with a huge eraser – you couldn’t see the mistakes I had erased. I wanted to be seen as someone who got everything right on the first try, even though, like everyone else, I’m a human being! Why do we feel a need to conceal these “imperfections”? These are literally the truths of our world.  In computer science, there is a joke that programmers rebrand bugs (unintended programmatic behavior) as features. I recently started to reframe what I previously thought of as flaws as consequences of the qualities that enable something or somebody

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